It is not uncommon to hear a woman apologizing over the phone or to a friend. You might hear a woman say ” I am sorry for not picking your call yesterday,” or “I am sorry that I wasn’t in a good place talk.” But the question is, do we have to apologize for everything? The problem with apologizing when you haven’t done anything wrong is that you give the other person power over you. As women, we need our power more than ever especially with how much we handle on a day to day basis.
In this post, we will be discussing 11 things that you should never apologize for. As a bonus, I will be gifting you with a self-love journal with prompts to help you be unapologetic about being you. Download it down below for FREE!
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Let’s dive right in!
What are some of the things that you should never apologize for?
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1. Needing alone time
Are you someone who wants to be alone sometimes? Is it something you enjoy or do you find yourself needing time away from others? If your answer is yes, chances are most people around you wouldn’t understand why and you will often find yourself apologizing for being away or asking for space.
However, you need to understand that time alone is important so don’t waste your time apologizing for it. Just ask for your alone time in a respectful manner and be sure to say where you are for safety reasons. Periods of solitude may not be interpersonal healthy, but also helpful in improving relationships with others.
2. Speaking your mind
We all have different personalities which means that everyone will have a different way of seeing things. Some may not like you for being brutally honest or being straight forward and that’s okay. You don’t have to impress everyone in life. Staying silent and not expressing yourself may do more harm to you than saving a friendship or hurting another person’s feelings. First of all, you don’t have to change or diminish who you are. Don’t fear hurting other people’s feelings.
Sometimes people may be intimidated by your strong personality and to make them feel welcomed and speak their opinions, you pause and stop being you to accommodate them. The truth is, these people will never change and you will find yourself keeping the pause pressed for long just for them.
This attitude is not healthy. You don’t have to apologize for being strong and straightforward in the first place. If something you say hurts someone’s feelings try to remember to be welcoming, respectful and kind first. If even after you try to clarify yourself, nothing changes, then it’s no more your problem. Period.
You can’t please everyone and there will always be someone intimidated by you. It is important to express your mind and behave in the truest way possible. It makes you who you are. So don’t apologize for what you say and if it’s too straight then remember that that’s your honest way of being you and if you being real makes another person uncomfortable, don’t be sorry.
3. Asking for help
Asking for help is often taken as a sign of weakness. Some people may tell you to exhaust all options before you ask for help because it makes you vulnerable. This is a negative mindset that you should never allow to reign around. Most importantly, you shouldn’t have to apologize for it. Being a human being means that there are times that you cannot do much on your own. After all, no one is “superman”. So hold your head high and ask for help when you can’t do it on your own. You owe no one an apology for being a human being.
4. Taking time to respond to a message
Let’s face it, sometimes life can get in the way and you aren’t able to respond to a message as fast as expected. The person who is waiting for your text message may get offended without hearing you out for taking long to respond. Our natural instinct will be to apologize first but research shows that it makes you appear weak. If they haven’t heard your explanation and they don’t want to hear any of it but still remain angry, then do yourself a favor and let them be. Dealing with an angry person is not good especially if you have done nothing wrong to them.
5. Your past mistakes
Your past, no matter how bad it was, does not define your future. The choices and actions you make today will ultimately define who you will eventually become. But sometimes, people in your present may still judge you for your past. If you made an effort to apologize for your mistakes and make things right, yet they still want to make you feel terrible for it, then you have done all you could. Stop apologizing and start moving on.
Make the decision to learn from your past and apply it in the present so that you can live the life that you were meant to live. You deserve it.
6. Saying “no”
I know how hard it is to say no to someone. It’s because we hate being rejected and rejecting others. Because of that, we get comfortable saying yes even when we know that we will be hurt for it.
Get this, every time you say “no”, You say “yes” to yourself. You gain back control for your life and prevent others from making decisions for you. It protects you from anyone trying to trans-pass your boundaries and keeps your mental health in check.
It might be hard to get used to it at first but you need to learn to choose yourself first before anybody else. After all, you spend your whole life with yourself, you might as well choose you anytime. Others may leave you but you will always stay with yourself.
7. Telling the truth
Never apologize for being honest. Those who are dishonest should be the one to apologize. Nobody should have to apologize for being pure, real and telling the truth rather than hiding it.
If you have to tell someone the truth, just say, ” May I be honest with you?” instead of saying,” I am sorry but may I be honest with you?”
Just never apologize. Be honest and move forward in life. Your goodness, honesty and good heart is a powerful thing and it shows who you are which is powerful.
8. Doing well in life
We all have people in our lives that will persecute you whether you do well or bad in life. It always seems like they have nothing better to do than criticize you for everything. Don’t worry, you have permission to do well in life without fear of being criticized by anyone.
Besides, people talk about you when they lose the privilege of talking with you. So don’t be afraid of letting people talk behind your back because you are doing well in life. After all, it’s not your fault that they have nothing better to do with their lives.People talk about you when they lose the privilege of talking with youClick To Tweet
9. Loving someone
To love or not to love is a choice. We can love but sometimes, that love is not returned. That’s not your fault. You chose to love but they chose not to love you back. That does not mean that you are unlovable or unworthy of love. You are not weak or a fool to love.
Loving someone makes you a courageous person because you chose to be vulnerable and self-sacrifice which is a requirement in love. When things didn’t work out, You still dusted yourself and got up and kept moving forward. If that’s not strength, then I don’t know what is. So don’t apologize for loving someone.
10. Following your dream
A life full of regrets is not worth living. Follow your dreams without holding yourself back and make the most of it. Most importantly, never apologize to anyone for following your dream. Besides, you had a vision before anyone had an opinion. Keep moving forward.
11. Being emotional/sensitive
We often hear people reprimanding us for crying or being excited because of someone or something. That makes you you. You should not have to change yourself to fit into their life. Embrace what makes you different and feel every emotion with the intensity that it deserves. Continue being you.
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